Care
As a caregiver, you may see your loved one go through a wide range of emotions. While this can be difficult for both of you, your willingness to listen and offer support will make a difference.
People with cancer often feel emotions, such as:
Sadness
Sadness can come and go during treatment and after treatment. For some people, it can be more constant or last longer.
Anger
People can be angry about the way treatment, and its side effects make them feel or about the changes their diagnosis has made in their lives.
Worry/Anxiety
Cancer can be one of the most stressful events a person experiences. Worries include fear of treatment not working, of cancer returning or spreading and of possibly losing control over one’s life and future. Other worries that existed before the cancer diagnosis, such as work or financial concerns, can add to the stress.
It is not easy or pleasant to watch someone you care about go through difficult emotions. There are things you can do, however, to help both of you cope:
Listen
By simply listening to those feelings can be one of the most important contributions you make.
Do what you can in your capacity
Think about how you’ve helped each other feel better during a difficult time in the past. Was a fun outing a helpful distraction? Or do the two of you prefer quiet times and conversation? Do whatever works for you both, and don’t be afraid to try something new.
Ask Questions
It is okay to ask loved ones for guidance, ask them what they want and need, rather than making assumptions about their wants and needs.
Counselling and life coaches
Counselling does not take away the pain but it provides mechanisms for one to cope.
A life coach who focuses on relationships and careers may assist with cancer survivors who have had to make life changes or for their loved ones who have had to learn to cope without their partners.
To gain access to a Cancer counsellor or a life coach, please contact us.
